my opening statement

This is not the first thing that I have written to you nor do I intend it will be the last.  Recently, one of my favorite authors posted a blog about his writing to his son, you can read it here, it prompted me to try and spend some more time doing the same.

The tricky part here is always how or where to begin.  So I think tonight I will start with my eldest.

I know that right now you think that I am mad or unhappy with you.  Untrue.  You think that I didn’t enjoy having you and Fia here this summer.  Also, untrue.  I love you and Fia with all my heart and loved having you here.  Part of me wants you here always so I can take care of you.  But another part of me knows that you need to do your own thing now.  I worry about you a lot.  I don’t think some of your choices are the best – but I am making that determination from afar and with limited reliable data.  I hope that you and Fia are thriving and happy.  I hope that someday soon you’ll feel like you can come see me.   You will always be my little girl… no matter what you do or who you are with (or what I think of them).  Just don’t let anyone marginalize you or mistreat you or treat you like less than the beautiful girl that you are.  Remember, Moms’ always love their daughters come hell or high water.

To my middle child… you have a frustrating sense of humor that I don’t always get and consequently I react in all the wrong ways.  You remind me so much of my Dad or my brothers in some of the things that you say – it really makes me laugh and smile.  You remind me of my Grandpa sometimes when I look at you.  You and your baby brother have that image in common.  Sometimes it makes me want to cry.  I think a lot now about you going off to college, because I know you are smart enough to do it.  I think how I just don’t know how I will do without you here.  I’ve never told you this because I guess it was something that I didn’t want to admit or maybe that I thought would show weakness where I couldn’t afford it or maybe people would view it as selfish or wrong somehow.  But the truth is that for the last 15 years you have been my rock… my sticking point… my inspiration.  When I felt things were at their absolute worst you always brought me back from the brink.   I’m sure you never realized it but you always grounded me.  Maybe because it was only you and me in a sense… your Dad was never there and so you were 100% mine from day one and you gave me the unconditional love that I needed to keep going and I never had to share it with anyone.  I’m not doing a very good job of putting it into words; just know that you are my light. I hope that when you are off making your way in the world you’ll think to call your Mom once in a while.  I love you, Austina-ballerina.  Now clean your room! (-;

Now we come to my second life and double-trouble.  There are 12 years between you two and your big brother, whew!  I had started writing a book of how you came to be and it is half finished somewhere here on my computer.  Today though, my twin-kies, you are just three years old.  You fill the halls with laughter and nonsense and everyone needs that in their life.  I learned a lot about parenting from your brother and sister but not nearly enough to claim I have a clue.  You both surprise me every single day with things you do or say.

My Monkey, you are the master mimic right now.  And no matter how many times you do it, I will always laugh when you ask me if I am ‘ready to arm’.  You are an unstoppable force and some days I worry that if you bump your head in the same place one more time you will have a permanent bruise!  You tried to take your Gramma out with a hot wheel this summer… you’re definitely a little firecracker!  You are loving and kind and full of hugs and kisses.  And not unlike your big brother, when you think you’ve hit on something that gets a laugh you tend to repeat it a lot.  You are my precious little man and I love you.

My Princess you are the queen bee of the hive around here and frequently run your big brother ragged.  The other day you wanted something and I said I didn’t have the money and you informed me it was in my purse.  When I said I didn’t have enough you said that we needed to get some more then.  When I asked you where, you said to look in my pockets!  You have a little head wag and attitude and that defies me and makes me worry about what kind of trouble I have to look forward to.  You are smart and talkative – I love the way that you make up little stories when you are playing with your ponies and buffalos and other dolls.  You play along with my silly jokes on your ‘stinky’ brothers which is great.  You are a beauty who will break a million hearts and I love you!

That’s all for tonight.  I will try to make a habit of this so all the unsaid things get said.

Affirmations of Humanism

  • We are committed to the application of reason and science to the understanding of the universe and to the solving of human problems.
  • We believe that scientific discovery and technology can contribute to the betterment of human life.
  • We believe in an open and pluralistic society and that democracy is the best guarantee of protecting human rights from authoritarian elites and repressive majorities.
  • We are committed to the principle of the separation of church and state.
  • We cultivate the arts of negotiation and compromise as a means of resolving differences and achieving mutual understanding.
  • We are concerned with securing justice and fairness in society and with eliminating discrimination and intolerance.
  • We believe in supporting the disadvantaged and the handicapped so that they will be able to help themselves.
  • We attempt to transcend divisive parochial loyalties based on race, religion, gender, nationality, creed, class, sexual orientation, or ethnicity, and strive to work together for the common good of humanity.
  • We want to protect and enhance the earth, to preserve it for future generations, and to avoid inflicting needless suffering on other species.
  • We believe in enjoying life here and now and in developing our creative talents to their fullest.
  • We believe in the cultivation of moral excellence.
  • We respect the right to privacy. Mature adults should be allowed to fulfill their aspirations, to express their sexual preferences, to exercise reproductive freedom, to have access to comprehensive and informed health-care, and to die with dignity.
  • We believe in the common moral decencies: altruism, integrity, honesty, truthfulness, responsibility. Humanist ethics is amenable to critical, rational guidance. There are normative standards that we discover together. Moral principles are tested by their consequences.
  • We are deeply concerned with the moral education of our children. We want to nourish reason and compassion.
  • We are engaged by the arts no less than by the sciences.
  • We are citizens of the universe and are excited by discoveries still to be made in the cosmos.
  • We are skeptical of untested claims to knowledge, and we are open to novel ideas and seek new departures in our thinking.
  • We affirm humanism as a realistic alternative to theologies of despair and ideologies of violence and as a source of rich personal significance and genuine satisfaction in the service to others.
  • We believe in optimism rather than pessimism, hope rather than despair, learning in the place of dogma, truth instead of ignorance, joy rather than guilt or sin, tolerance in the place of fear, love instead of hatred, compassion over selfishness, beauty instead of ugliness, and reason rather than blind faith or irrationality.
  • We believe in the fullest realization of the best and noblest that we are capable of as human beings.

** The above is my edited version, I had to remove one item that I didn’t 100% agree with and I highlighted a couple things that really speak to me personally.   You can read the original text here

You can purchase your own copy of the Affirmations of Humanism on parchment, suitable for framing, here.

Optimism

Inspiring speech and great philosophy on life and being optimistic, we really need more leaders like this!

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I especially love what he says about the benefits of taking action now even though you [we] may not live to see the fruits… (4:50)

This stuff may take a long time when measured against our lifespan, but 33 years in the life of the planet is a blink of an eye. You have to be prepared to pay the price of time if you want to change the arc of time. — Bill Clinton

I really believe that this applies not just to taking action on climate change or the benefit of our planet but on an even smaller scale with how we raise our children everyday and the legacy we leave them.

I also really love what he says right at the end about being optimistic… (54:44)

…are you a failure if you don’t win every game? No, you’re a failure when you quit playing. So that’s my message, I’m optimistic but I don’t know [what the future holds]. All I know is you gotta keep playing. — Bill Clinton

Twinnkies 3-year old checkup!

Immunizations were all up-to-date so no shots today!! Yippee!! This made for a mostly pleasant and easy doctor’s visit. Both of the twinnkies are doing well and growing!

Ellie’s 3-yr
Old Checkup!!

Date

Age

Weight

Height

Percentile

4/15/11

2

28 pounds 12 ounces

35.5 inches

90th/75th

4/16/12

3

31 pounds 4 ounces

37 inches

50th/50th

Marcus’ 3-yr
Old Checkup!!

Date

Age

Weight

Height

Percentile

4/15/11

2

25 pounds 8 ounces

34 inches

50th/25th

4/16/12

3

26 pounds 8 ounces

36 inches

20th/10th

 

 

R.I.P. Willa

I just found out that my friend passed on this morning.   Willa was a wonderful, kind-hearted, generous, funny & beautiful lady and I loved her like a sister.  When I was going through the in-vitro process to get pregnant with the twins she was there for me every painful step of the way.  She helped give me my injections, she listened to me cry and rant.  She even had symapthy pains for me!  When the first round failed and I lost the embryos she was the one who held me up and stuck with me for the next round.  I am so glad that she was still with us to meet the fruits of our labors.  When I heard the news today the first thing I did was run upstairs to hug my twins.  I know that she was in a lot of pain from the cancer and so I hope that now all her pain is gone.  She will be truly missed and forever loved.

We’re both so *fond* of having our picture taken that this was the only one I could find of us… and it’s old… and we are a motley crew, that…

I love you lady and I hope you’ve found peace.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

(I am in white and Willa is next to me in red.)

Sophia Mae!

Introducing Sophia Mae Wirtz my new (and first) grand-baby!! 😀

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

November 30th, 2011 at 3:11 PM in Wisconsin Rapids, WI

6 pounds, 15 ounces, & 19 inches

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why Austin will never give me grandkids…

I had started crocheting a baby blanket for my soon-to-be grand-baby.  (from Katey)

Austin laughs and says “Geez Mom, you’re in full-on Granny mode!”  (my Mom is constantly knitting, sewing, etc)

I respond with a sigh, “Maybe I’ll have it done by the time you have a baby.”  (as of this writing the baby better be extremely skinny)

To which he adamantly replies “I’m never having kids!”

And I say “Well… when your wife has a baby.”

Austin – “No way, Mom!  I’m not ever having kids!”

Me – “Why not?”  (and I was asking seriously)

Without so much as a word he rolls his eyes and then looks at me and then looks at the twins… “They’re why!!”

Of course… that should have been obvious, right?! LOL

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Later that day while trying to relax and have a snack two mini-people (who had already eaten their dinner) attacked from both sides ‘meowing’ until I fed them.  I don’t believe that I have ever spoon fed the cat so I’m not sure why they thought that was a good idea.. but I suppose it resulted in them getting fed so I guess I’m the dope!