my opening statement

This is not the first thing that I have written to you nor do I intend it will be the last.  Recently, one of my favorite authors posted a blog about his writing to his son, you can read it here, it prompted me to try and spend some more time doing the same.

The tricky part here is always how or where to begin.  So I think tonight I will start with my eldest.

I know that right now you think that I am mad or unhappy with you.  Untrue.  You think that I didn’t enjoy having you and Fia here this summer.  Also, untrue.  I love you and Fia with all my heart and loved having you here.  Part of me wants you here always so I can take care of you.  But another part of me knows that you need to do your own thing now.  I worry about you a lot.  I don’t think some of your choices are the best – but I am making that determination from afar and with limited reliable data.  I hope that you and Fia are thriving and happy.  I hope that someday soon you’ll feel like you can come see me.   You will always be my little girl… no matter what you do or who you are with (or what I think of them).  Just don’t let anyone marginalize you or mistreat you or treat you like less than the beautiful girl that you are.  Remember, Moms’ always love their daughters come hell or high water.

To my middle child… you have a frustrating sense of humor that I don’t always get and consequently I react in all the wrong ways.  You remind me so much of my Dad or my brothers in some of the things that you say – it really makes me laugh and smile.  You remind me of my Grandpa sometimes when I look at you.  You and your baby brother have that image in common.  Sometimes it makes me want to cry.  I think a lot now about you going off to college, because I know you are smart enough to do it.  I think how I just don’t know how I will do without you here.  I’ve never told you this because I guess it was something that I didn’t want to admit or maybe that I thought would show weakness where I couldn’t afford it or maybe people would view it as selfish or wrong somehow.  But the truth is that for the last 15 years you have been my rock… my sticking point… my inspiration.  When I felt things were at their absolute worst you always brought me back from the brink.   I’m sure you never realized it but you always grounded me.  Maybe because it was only you and me in a sense… your Dad was never there and so you were 100% mine from day one and you gave me the unconditional love that I needed to keep going and I never had to share it with anyone.  I’m not doing a very good job of putting it into words; just know that you are my light. I hope that when you are off making your way in the world you’ll think to call your Mom once in a while.  I love you, Austina-ballerina.  Now clean your room! (-;

Now we come to my second life and double-trouble.  There are 12 years between you two and your big brother, whew!  I had started writing a book of how you came to be and it is half finished somewhere here on my computer.  Today though, my twin-kies, you are just three years old.  You fill the halls with laughter and nonsense and everyone needs that in their life.  I learned a lot about parenting from your brother and sister but not nearly enough to claim I have a clue.  You both surprise me every single day with things you do or say.

My Monkey, you are the master mimic right now.  And no matter how many times you do it, I will always laugh when you ask me if I am ‘ready to arm’.  You are an unstoppable force and some days I worry that if you bump your head in the same place one more time you will have a permanent bruise!  You tried to take your Gramma out with a hot wheel this summer… you’re definitely a little firecracker!  You are loving and kind and full of hugs and kisses.  And not unlike your big brother, when you think you’ve hit on something that gets a laugh you tend to repeat it a lot.  You are my precious little man and I love you.

My Princess you are the queen bee of the hive around here and frequently run your big brother ragged.  The other day you wanted something and I said I didn’t have the money and you informed me it was in my purse.  When I said I didn’t have enough you said that we needed to get some more then.  When I asked you where, you said to look in my pockets!  You have a little head wag and attitude and that defies me and makes me worry about what kind of trouble I have to look forward to.  You are smart and talkative – I love the way that you make up little stories when you are playing with your ponies and buffalos and other dolls.  You play along with my silly jokes on your ‘stinky’ brothers which is great.  You are a beauty who will break a million hearts and I love you!

That’s all for tonight.  I will try to make a habit of this so all the unsaid things get said.

Happy Yule! Merry Christmas! Welcome New Year!

Happy Holidays and a Shiny New Year filled with lots of love and good cheer!

  • The Ninth Pãramitã:   Loving Kindness (mettã) means ‘good will’ in all our actions.
  • My religion is very simple.  My religion is kindness. ~ The 14th Dali Lama
  • Kindness is the light that dissolves all walls between souls, families, and nations. ~ Paramahansa Yogananda
  • You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • Is there any one maxim which ought to be acted upon throughout one’s whole life?  Surely the maxim of loving kindness is such. ~ Confucious

May your hearts and homes be filled with Loving Kindness now and always.

Love from Candi, Austin, Ellie, Marcus, Jose & Katey

This time of year it always seems we notice those missing from our lives a little bit more.  It seems harder to get on with the days without them here.  Hold your family close at the holidays and everyday… you just don’t know what’s around the corner.  So for all those faces & voices & hugs & kisses that will be missed at the table this Christmas – I still hold you all in my heart and miss you dearly.

April showers bring May flowers…

Wow!  I can’t believe it’s April!  Ellie & Marcus will be a year old in just 2 weeks!  It was beautiful out today, even after 5!  It was nice that I was able to take the babies outside for a walk without bundling them up!  Austin is visiting his cousins over spring break so it’s kinda quiet here.  I think he sometimes makes more noise than the twins do together!  I had surgery on Tuesday which seems to have gone well, have to follow up in a few weeks.  I twistedmy ankle (again) but I suppose I’ll get over it.  I always do.  (-: 

Still going through the paperwork and procedures for buying my house.  And I thought the Army was nothing but paperwork and hurry up and wait… well now I know that bankers and realtors win the red tape prize!  Waiting now for a letterof committment from the bank which my broker says is no problem… just some more paperwork.  The seller is refusing to do the agreedupon repairs without the letter even though we have a singed amendment to the original offer.  Whatever… glad my close is still 2 months away at the rate this is crawling along.  Tenative move weekend is the last Saturday in May, Memorial Weekend – cause it gives me an extra day to unpack.  But this is allreally in a holding pattern right now until the paperwork and repairs are done.

Anyhoo… I’m looking forward to warmer weather and being outside more with the kids and eventually (hopefully) being closer to my family.

9-month Checkup


February 5th, 2010 (9 months + 21 days) 9-month Check-Up  – Doc says they are perfect!

Statistics Growth Percentiles
  Height Weight HC* HC for Age Wt for Age Ht for Age Wt for Ht
Ellie 2′ 3″ 22 lb 5 oz 47 cm (18.5″) 98.13% 90.64% 20.83% 99.04%
Marcus 2′ 4″ 19 lb 10 oz 45.8 cm (18″) 57.47% 26.46% 29.30% 61.22%

*HC = Head Circumference

Ellie is a crawling machine and Marcus is getting there.  He can pull himself along pretty quickly with his arms, he just hasn’t gotten his belly off the floor yet.  They are both walking along the furniture and pulling themselves upon everything.  The are both getting a top tooth to go with their bottom two.  Ellie is hell on wheels in her walker… nothing in her reash is safe!  Marcus still only goes backwards but he grabs all he can reach too.

The both love pancakes and orange juice on Saturday morning.  Ellie likes to dance and Marcus likes to sing.  Austin has already worked out all the instruments they are going to learn so the three of them can have a band.

It’s hard to believe that they will be turning 1 in a few short months… geez, where did the time go?

Don’t you wish it was you…

Your nose is sucked out
Your little tooth is brushed
Your face is washed
Your butt is dry and huggied
You are in a warm bed in a dark room
You have your soft blanket and your favorite plushie
You have a fresh bottle of water
And best of all your mommy gave you good night kisses
Nighty-night little monkies

Twinnies 6 month check-up


6-Month Statistics
6 mos 21 days Ellie Marcus
Height 2′ 2.25″ 2′ 2″
Weight 19 lbs 6 oz 17 lbs 3 oz
BMI 19.77 17.88
Head Circumference 45 cm 44.3 cm

And they both got 5 shots! Doc says they are both doing wonderfully and gave them the go ahead for more substantial foodstuffs. 

The other big news is that Ellie broke through her very first tooth this week!

New photo album

Trying out a new photo album… it seems to be a little cleaner looking with faster navigation.  Still working on the look and feel of it.  And the pics are not all commented or in any order, so bear with me on that one!